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I’ve been lazy at reporting on my upcoming nuptials. I’m sure this has caused many a sleepless night for most of you. So that you may get some shut eye, I’ll share the details on our ceremony and reception location.

They’re one in the same, actually. After way too much deliberation, we landed on the D & B Ranch in Divide, Colo. It’s a fairly unknown place that typically serves as a bed and breakfast inn.

I stumbled across this place at the bridal fair in January. The setting is perfect, and the cost can’t be beat.

It’s nestled in a small canyon and surrounded by copious aspen trees, wildlife, running streams and glassy ponds. It’s the type of place that works for a Colorado wedding.

There are three cottages/houses, all designed by a retired engineer in Bostonian styles: the Cape Cod, the Victorian and the Williamsburg. It’s difficult to choose a favorite, but Hans and I will stay in the Victorian. You see, the package deal includes the place to ourselves for the weekend. No other guests outside those invited are allowed on site, and we have up to 10 guests stay with us all weekend long (overnight, I mean).

The upshot is we also receive wedding coordination assistance, which hasn’t been all that needed thus far. Another perk is also a free weekend stay in one year to celebrate our anniversary.

I can’t really do the place any justice, and neither does its website. All I know is that I can’t wait to get up there and celebrate the big day!

Photo by Carly Mitchell Photography

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Don’t get me wrong. I’m no schlump around the house. Walk into my house and you’ll typically find it generally tidy, a candle burning here or there and some fresh fruit in the kitchen. Let’s be honest, though, I’m no Martha Stewart. I’m not even Martha’s father’s brother’s nephew’s cousin’s former roommate.

This all makes last week’s three-night sleepover a real experiment. Hans had some work to do in the Springs last week, so as he put it “he crashed on my couch.” Now, on weekends this isn’t a real challenge. We’re usually knocking around and doing all kinds of stuff.

Last week, I had to think about leaving work on time, stopping at the store for dinner groceries and entertaining on a “school night.” (Not *THAT* kind of entertaining. Perverts.)

And there was that famous moment when I called and uttered, “What sounds good for dinner? What time will you be home?”

Ack! This sounds like a married couple!

Look, it’s not like Hans is high maintenance. One night he wanted Mac-n-Cheese; out of a box, even! But the idea of domestication did cross my mind. I’m partially responsible for another’s well being, outside of Darcy Dog. Those three nights had me somewhere between elation and vomit.

I want to get married. I want to get married to Hans. It’s just that after 39 years of popping my lounge pants on when I get home and eating chips with melted cheddar cheese on them for dinner may be on a short rope.

It’s a lot to take in. But what I take comfort in is that I’m with a guy who will love me even in my lounge pants and with my chips and cheese.

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As most of you already know, I said yes this past Christmas when Hans asked me to marry him. While it’s thrilling overall, I’ve been through a number of thought-provoking phases over the last two weeks. One being that it’s only been two weeks!

It’s been fun charting peoples’ reactions. Most of them start with “yeah” and then one of these questions:

  • Do you have a date yet?
  • Where will it be?
  • When will you have babies? Actually this isn’t as much a question as a statement that usually goes something like this … BABIES!
  • Have you thought of any colors?
  • Where will you register?
  • Where is the honeymoon?

While I appreciate the enthusiasm, it’s overwhelming. No, seriously, don’t get me wrong. I’m loving the excitement of it all. But I have a lot of different questions.

  • What am I going to do with all the crap I’ve collected for 39 years?
  • Will I still be able to occasionally veg out and watch Lifetime movies?
  • How long will it take Darcy to find a new poop place in her new yard?
  • How many commutes will take from Pueblo West to Colorado Springs before I go ballistic? Also, is sleeping allowed during morning commutes?
  • What are the creative ways I can destroy the Conan the Barbarian DVD?

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I’m usually not. Still, on the heels of my recent lamentation, I found it helpful when this article arrived in my inbox.

Communicators: Do you write for fun?
By Jessica Levco
jessical@ragan.com 
Making time for your own words—off the clock, in bed, or onboard

You write all day.

You bang out press releases to reporters. You churn out copy for the Intranet. You craft company newsletters. You blog. You tweet. You post on Facebook. You pen award-winning speeches. And maybe you send out a few e-mails, too.

These are just some of your writing responsibilities.

But do you write for fun? Or, when you go home, do you soak your fingers in ice?

We asked MyRaganites this question. And it looks like they had a pretty good time writing their responses.

Create a blog

For some professional writers, a blog is the best outlet for writing. Phoebe Venkat says that she tries to post once a month to her personal blog.

“I’m a huge proponent of personal writing,” Venkat says. “It’s a great way to let off steam and practice writing in a different style.” 

Dawn Crawford says she and her husband maintain four separate blogs—professional commentary, travel, goal-setting, and a crafting blog.

“I think it’s very important for every communications professional to continue to experiment and sharpen their skills outside of work,” Crawford says.

Kathryn Schmidt and her husband, Rick, blog together. For them, “weblog” gets changed to “we blog.”

“My husband (a corporate writer, painter, cartoonist and a cook) and I (a corporate writer, photographer and grateful eater) write a blog together featuring all of the above in the scope of our married life, shared across our two homes: one in Half Moon Bay, Calif., and the other, a renovated farmhouse, in Teton Valley, Idaho.”

A fellowship on Twitter

After leaving the news business for a career in communications, Matt M. missed writing and editing. He found a writing community on Twitter.

“I found a fun group on Twitter that posts ‘flash fiction’ (less than 1,000 words) every Friday,” Matt M. says. “Check out #FridayFlash on Twitter for a peek.”

Write in your journal

Cindy Lee says she’s kept a journal since 1972.

“It’s just me and a five-subject notebook,” Cindy says. “I’ve lost count of how many of them I’ve filled. I write about family, events and observations on life. I love the physical act of writing in longhand on a fresh sheet of paper. As much as I love how easy it is to write and edit on a computer, I don’t feel quite the same connection I get when I’m holding a pen in my hand.”

Write to help someone

Have you ever thought about helping someone with your words? Jay Somers does.

Somers says he likes to help businesses write a news release that might generate some local press.

“It might be a small business I patronize, a musical artist I know and have worked with, or a nonprofit of some type,” he says. “These are people or groups who don’t have a marketing budget of any kind and don’t know how to do it on their own.”

Travel writing

Could you be the next Bill Bryson?

MyRaganite Susan and her husband have been sailing for about 34 years. During that time, the boats have been large enough to “cruise” on, which gives the couple ample time to sleep and cook.

“During those decades of sailing, I’ve kept log books of every time we’ve been on the boat, or at least shaken out the sails, even if briefly,” Susan says. “I keep thinking they could make a good book some day when I retire.”

Don’t plug in

Ditch the MacBooks.

“I’ve been inspired by my very cool, lower-tech word-processing device called a Neo2 that I can use while sitting up in bed and doesn’t offer the distractions that a laptop does (namely games and Internet),” MyRaganite Gerry says.

By contrast, Doug says he prefers a pen over a keyboard.

“I love the physical act of forming words on paper,” Doug says. “Of course, it’s not very practical to write even my own stuff that way, but not only do I enjoy forming a story, but the physical act.”

Handwritten notes

Here’s one thing most of us can agree on: There’s nothing better than a handwritten note.

“I am still big on handwritten notes,” says Tina, another MyRaganite. “I write lots of ‘thinking of you’ notes, thank-you’s and ‘miss you’ notes. As I get older, I appreciate the warmth and thoughtfulness of a handwritten note.”

"Regardless of what you show up front, you always have a backstage view of yourself."

- Loosely Garrison Kellior

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Bad tooth, pain kills

Root canal, rubber fills

Chompers chew caramels

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It’s occurred to me that even though I consider myself a writer, the only works I can claim recently are a press release about wastewater and a post-it note to my mom. So what happens when you write for a living but can’t muster the energy to write about life?

"The difference between literature and journalism is that journalism is unreadable, and literature is not read."

- Oscar Wilde